{"id":5255,"date":"2012-09-26T22:09:00","date_gmt":"2012-09-27T02:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/?p=5255"},"modified":"2012-09-27T17:50:06","modified_gmt":"2012-09-27T21:50:06","slug":"the-relationship-im-not-in","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/2012\/09\/26\/the-relationship-im-not-in\/","title":{"rendered":"The Relationship I’m Not In"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ll start by saying a few words about Dan NJ’s post<\/a>: I agree.<\/p>\n

That was a very few words. In fact, I have no more words because he used up all the good ones on the topic in his treatise. So. Moving on. Now I’m going to say a few words about amy a’s post<\/a>, maybe more than a few, because she used all kinds of good words in hers, but I have\u00a0feelings<\/em> about her thesis. So many\u00a0feelings<\/em>.<\/p>\n

The premise of the post is that amy a is not necessarily\/is not as-yet\/might never be “happiest and a better<\/em> person<\/em>“\u00a0<\/em>when in a relationship. And I will go ahead and say that neither\u00a0have\u00a0I been “happiest” in a relationship, except when I was 15 but it was the 15-year-old kind of happiness: equal parts giddy lust\u00a0and\u00a0petrifying insecurity.<\/p>\n

The fact is, I have been in precious few relationships since then. Some fourth dates, a couple of six-month stints, and that’s about it. I keep friends around for decades, but I’ve never found anybody who I wanted to sleep in the same bed with for years. Who also wanted to sleep in the same bed with me. For years.<\/p>\n

But I’ve always assumed that, should I find that multi-year-bed-sharing person, I would be happier. Maybe even happiest.<\/p>\n

Not that every day would be wine and roses, and not that being in a relationship solves all your life’s problems, but there’s got to be something comforting\/contenting about knowing that through those problems, you’ll have at least that one person on your team.<\/p>\n

As far as the second part goes, I think I have<\/em> been a better person whilst in my (albeit limited) relationships. I’m a really good girlfriend.<\/p>\n