{"id":4141,"date":"2012-03-18T21:14:15","date_gmt":"2012-03-19T01:14:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/?p=4141"},"modified":"2012-10-03T17:22:15","modified_gmt":"2012-10-03T21:22:15","slug":"the-foster-chronicles-buffy-epilogue","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/2012\/03\/18\/the-foster-chronicles-buffy-epilogue\/","title":{"rendered":"The Foster Chronicles: Buffy, Epilogue"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Day 1<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I pee by myself for the first time in six and a half weeks. It&#8217;s lonely.<\/p>\n<p>When I bring them inside, Redford and Violet run to the spare bedroom to see if <a href=\"http:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/?p=4131\">Buffy<\/a>&#8216;s there. (They will continue the practice for three days, at which point they resign themselves to the facts.)<\/p>\n<p>I sit on my hands all day, trying not to email Jane to find out how Buffy&#8217;s doing. Jane emails me in the evening, letting me know that Buffy is settling in, although she does &#8220;spend the first few hours staring at the door&#8221; waiting for me to come back. She thanks me for my sacrifice, in the time it took to foster her and the &#8220;selflessness it took to give her up&#8221;. She says they&#8217;re really grateful and look forward to doggie play dates in the future.<\/p>\n<p>I write back and thank her profusely for the update.<\/p>\n<p>I feel guilty for loving the part about her staring at the door.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Day 2<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Carolina Care Bullies posts a plea for foster families for two full-grown pits, one male and one female.<\/p>\n<p>I ignore the post.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Day 3<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I get an email from a CCB rep with the subject line, &#8220;Fostering again?&#8221; The rep explains that the two dogs from the prior day&#8217;s post, both two to three years old, had been confiscated in a cruelty case. They were taken to the shelter along with a dead puppy that was found with them. The female had had a prolapsed uterus but, after undergoing medical treatment, was recovering well. Would I consider fostering her?<\/p>\n<p>I ignore the email.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Day 4<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I run into Buffy and her two mommies at the <a href=\"http:\/\/marrydurham.com\/\">Marry Durham<\/a> street festival. Buffy is nervous and at first doesn&#8217;t realize it&#8217;s me. When I squat down and speak to her, she begins to wag. Wag, wag, wag. Her whole body wags. And then she presses herself into me. I start to cry. I&#8217;m so happy to see her. Jane and her partner tell me she&#8217;s doing great. Going for runs, totally fine in the kennel, no going potty in the house, no chasing the cat. We exchange promises about future play dates and say goodbye. I don&#8217;t want to say goodbye.<\/p>\n<p>I send a message to CCB and say I can&#8217;t foster again right now. I&#8217;m too emotional. The rep responds that she understands.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Day 5<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>My friend, Kate K., emails me in the morning to see if I can do lunch. That reminds me I&#8217;m supposed to be trying a <a href=\"http:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/?p=3873\">new modus operandi<\/a>: Say yes and see what happens.<\/p>\n<p>I email the CCB rep six words:\u00a0<em>I&#8217;ll do it. I&#8217;ll take her.<\/em><\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_4143\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4143\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/03\/New-Foster-2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-4143\" title=\"New Foster 2\" src=\"http:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/03\/New-Foster-2-300x167.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"167\" srcset=\"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/03\/New-Foster-2-300x167.jpg 300w, https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/03\/New-Foster-2.jpg 798w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-4143\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">New foster dog arriving tomorrow or Tuesday.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/?p=4147\">The Foster Chronicles: Tulip, Week 1<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Day 1 I pee by myself for the first time in six and a half weeks. It&#8217;s lonely. When I bring them inside, Redford and Violet run to the spare bedroom to see if Buffy&#8216;s there. (They will continue the practice for three days, at which point they resign themselves to the facts.) I sit &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/2012\/03\/18\/the-foster-chronicles-buffy-epilogue\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">The Foster Chronicles: Buffy, Epilogue<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4141","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-animules","category-first-world-problems"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4141","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4141"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4141\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5308,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4141\/revisions\/5308"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4141"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4141"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4141"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}