{"id":2345,"date":"2011-04-19T15:12:40","date_gmt":"2011-04-19T19:12:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/?p=2345"},"modified":"2011-06-20T09:23:42","modified_gmt":"2011-06-20T13:23:42","slug":"opiner-buddha","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/2011\/04\/19\/opiner-buddha\/","title":{"rendered":"Opiner-Buddha"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve been thinking a lot about the conversation we had in the comments the other day. You know, about my being judgmental<\/a>. I’m still a little surprised by Opiner’s reaction. Why did that post in particular offend him so mightily? I felt like that one was kind of a throwaway, actually. I wasn’t thinking horrible thoughts about CaryMale37. I just find unnecessary quotation marks funny. Clearly, I’m not the only one. <\/a><\/p>\n

Listen, I make joke!<\/em> (That has to be said with an Eastern European accent.)<\/p>\n

I mean, yes, I’m judgmental. But seriously, once I get to know you, I nearly always<\/em> adore you. I’m going to say 99.64% of the people I get to know? I am almost pathologically<\/em> admiring of them. I’m arguing a case for their awesomeness inside my head at all times, and they just keep providing me with evidence. (The other 0.36% of the people I meet I think are total douches.)<\/p>\n

So, should I judge people I don’t know? Probably not.<\/p>\n

Do I do it? Yep.<\/p>\n

Is it funny? I think so. Often.<\/p>\n

…But I’m coachable. I’ll work on it.<\/p>\n

I knew this guy, only peripherally really, when I lived in New York. He was probably in his mid-forties, businessman. At one point, he said to me, “I’ve started looking at all criticism as coaching. Even personal attacks, I just take as something to consider and work on to be more effective with people.”<\/p>\n

My Catholic friend Cat frequently listens to a Buddhist podcast. When I told her about remembering what the businessman had said, she mentioned that her podcast monk often says something like: Let everyone be your Buddha. Every person that you meet appears before you to teach you something.<\/em><\/p>\n

So, from now on, I’ll try to remember to reflect on my judgments of prospective dates.<\/p>\n

I’ll probably still make fun of them on the blog, though.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I’ve been thinking a lot about the conversation we had in the comments the other day. You know, about my being judgmental. I’m still a little surprised by Opiner’s reaction. Why did that post in particular offend him so mightily? I felt like that one was kind of a throwaway, actually. I wasn’t thinking horrible … Continue reading Opiner-Buddha<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,20,6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2345","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating","category-first-world-problems","category-random"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2345","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2345"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2345\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2354,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2345\/revisions\/2354"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2345"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2345"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2345"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}