{"id":2177,"date":"2011-03-22T21:14:57","date_gmt":"2011-03-23T01:14:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/?p=2177"},"modified":"2011-06-20T09:24:47","modified_gmt":"2011-06-20T13:24:47","slug":"yin-meet-yang-yang-yin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/2011\/03\/22\/yin-meet-yang-yang-yin\/","title":{"rendered":"Yin, Meet Yang, Yang, Yin"},"content":{"rendered":"

Twice when I was growing up, maybe a couple years apart, I choked on food. Both times, it was a navel orange segment that I hadn’t bothered to chew enough. Both times, my mom noticed that I was about to die, reached in the back of my throat, pulled out the offending citrus, and flung it in the trash.<\/p>\n

And went back to needle-pointing a Christmas stocking. Or braiding bread dough into Challah loaves.<\/p>\n

In my adulthood, I asked her, “Mom, how could you not totally freak out when your baby’s airway was cut off?”<\/p>\n

She paused and then said, “Well, I always thought there could be only one drama queen in a relationship, and your father had that pretty much covered.”<\/p>\n

There’s something to be said for this. My mom and dad are opposites in many ways. Mom has a sort of practical\/functional slant to her smarts (her PhD is in public health); Dad’s brain is more theoretical (his, ancient history). Mom’s never met a stranger; Dad’s a proud misanthrope. Mom’s parenting style was a little more laissez-faire; Dad was always fiercely protective, ready to swoop in and save the day.<\/p>\n

My sister and brother-in-law are interesting complements as well. When I didn’t call after meeting FOT<\/a> the first time, my sister started worrying. “I hope something bad didn’t happen on Amy’s date,” she said to her husband.<\/p>\n

He cocked his head at her and said, “Maybe her date went really well<\/em>.”<\/p>\n

One time E got my sister a little figurine of Tigger standing behind Eeyore, the tiger yanking backwards on both of the donkey’s cheeks.<\/p>\n

Wait a minute…<\/p>\n

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There it is. (Man, I love the internet!)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

My brother-in-law : Tigger :: my sister : Eeyore.<\/p>\n

But you have to have something in common, of course. My parents have been together 40 years, my sister and bro-in-law 21. They didn’t get there being diametrically opposed in every way.<\/p>\n

So what do you absolutely have to<\/em> share with your partner? And how much different<\/em> is good?<\/p>\n

I ask because I’m emailing with a guy from OKCupid right now who claims to be a positive nihilist (that sounds like me), loves food (um, mm-hm), and won’t get out of his car at his destination if Journey’s “Don’t Stop Believin'” is on the radio (whoa! hello, kindred spirit!).<\/p>\n

But he smokes “sometimes”, drinks “often”, and doesn’t want children.<\/p>\n

I’m thinking I could tolerate (a) and (b), but (c) probably means no-go, right?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Twice when I was growing up, maybe a couple years apart, I choked on food. Both times, it was a navel orange segment that I hadn’t bothered to chew enough. Both times, my mom noticed that I was about to die, reached in the back of my throat, pulled out the offending citrus, and flung … Continue reading Yin, Meet Yang, Yang, Yin<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,8,20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2177","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating","category-fambly","category-first-world-problems"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2177","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2177"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2177\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2741,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2177\/revisions\/2741"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2177"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2177"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/avidbruxist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2177"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}